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Omni La Costa Resort San Diego


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Omni La Costa is a family-friendly resort + spa in Carlsbad, San Diego, California.

Immerse yourself in luxury as you settle into one of 600 rooms, suites or villas. Indulge in relaxation at The Spa at La Costa or dive into one of our eight swimming pools, including family-friendly waterslides and splash pads or the Edge adult pool, offering panoramic views of our championship courses. Turn your stay into a sport outing by teeing off at our championship-quality golf courses or practice your back hand at one of 17 tennis courts. Discover serenity at the Chopra Center for Wellbeing and satisfy appetites at one of our on-site restaurants. – website

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My Life in Africa

South Africa Stunned After Oscar Verdict is Given


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Reeva Steenkamp

After quite an emotional week for the country, with the Oscar Pistorius verdict, I’m hoping to simply wind down this weekend. I still don’t know what to believe. A lot of my friends overseas aren’t convinced he’s telling the truth. The papers here were critical of him being cleared. Reeva was in the industry I’m in, not to mention she was from my home town! It’s my aunt in the courtroom sitting next to her mother. Here are some interesting links for you:

Domestic Violence in South Africa

Oscar Pistorious Verdict Recap

Oscar Guilty of Manslaughter 

Blogging

Finding Your Voice Online


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1. Speak like you do in real life, online.

Communicate to your virtual audience in the same way as you would talk to the one person in the world who you feel most comfortable with. Why? Because that’s who you really are. That’s the way you talk, those are the things you say. So just type in the same way you would talk to this person in real life and that is your “voice” online.

2. Find a comfortable way of writing to communicate your thoughts online.

What things interest you? What things make you smile? What do you really think/value/believe in/feel? What do you find amusing or not so amusing? Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, Google+ and the countless other realms are only conduits for you to reflect your inner spirit in a cyber realm. There’s no one else like you! Embrace that. You surely want the expression of you across all your platforms to be accurate, don’t you? That way there’s no mixed signals with the people you care about. On top of writing about your interests, you need to write so people won’t get bored.

How to write with ease and make your posts effective:

  1. Use simple language
  2. Use short sentences
  3. Use bullet points
  4. Use metaphors
  5. Write many drafts of your article/status updates/posts before publishing them
  6. Use photos
  7. Practice using your “voice” in everyday stuff. Really look at how you write text messages, respond to comments on public platforms and in e-mails. Get to know how you express yourself and keep it congruent with your online platforms
  8. Respond kindly to all comments/e-mails/tweets and virtual interactions
  9. Do regular audits of your old blog posts, status updates and posts.
  10. Encourage your audience to approach you!

3. Constantly look for inspiration.

I love Pinterest, music, other blogs and everyday things that are happening to me! I use these as catalysts for articles and updates/posts because they mean something to me and chances are they will be relevant to my audience, too.

4. Keep up to date with your goals.

This involves “thinking on purpose sessions” as Joyce Meyer instructs. And wine. These are fun brainstorming sessions I would suggest having with yourself at least once a week to brainstorm new topics/angles for what your audience would like to read.

5. Get up-to-speed with your field of ‘expertise’.

If your blog is topical (deals with a specific field), get up to speed on current happenings and events so you can offer something valuable and relevant to your desired audience.

6. Be Passionate about what you are writing about.

Because it all begins there.

7. Hone your intention.

Is it to help, enlighten, entertain, inform, discuss?

8. When using your voice online, run the “Digital Presence” Four-Way Test

(my personal adaptation of the Rotary Four-Way Test)

+ Is it the Truth? Do you believe in what you are saying… really? Are you saying it with comfort and ease; expressing your honest personal and creative views?

+ Is it Fair to all concerned? Think about whether your audience will feel repelled or energized. Think what makes you feel repelled from other people when they post stuff. Then don’t post that kind of stuff. The aim is always to make sure your audience feels better after having read your stuff than they did before they read it (life lesson in general)

+ Will it build Goodwill & Better Friendships? Will people reading your material feel like they can comment and interact with you? Would they want to have a coffee with you in real life?

+ Will it be Beneficial to all Concerned? Is what you are saying helpful to your audience?

9. Things you want to aim for with your blogging/social presence in general:

Credibility 

Your readers respect that you have a fair share of experience in life/your field and can truly give them good insight and guidance to help them.This is especially true if you’re running your blog as a business (for profit)

Authenticity

Your readers feel you are being transparent and open with them. You are being the ‘you’ who you are in real life

Mutual Respect

Your readers will honour you if you honour them. They will interact with you if you take the time to respond to them and visit their portals.

Visual Appeal

Your readers are human beings and need to feel visually engaged in what you are writing about. Make sure to include photos and infograms (don’t know what an infogram is? I didn’t either. But now I love them. I have a collection of them on Pinterest here.) Include a couple personal pictures also so your readers feel connected with you. Keep it exciting!

Sustainability

Don’t start something you can’t finish. Keep the creative energy flowing. Keep the content high quality and truly ‘you’. Continue sharing and embracing the beauty of others who you have learnt from. Link back!!

 

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Creative Inspiration

Easy Steps To Calm Your Nerves


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So it’s that time of year again! Top Model is hungry for new models for their 2012 competition. It’s set to take place in London next year. This is how it works: they narrow down contestants from all over the world to just a hopeful few that will take part in a runway show in London next year in March. Their aim is to get a cross-section of applicants from around the globe to take part in the show, where eventually only 1 winner will remain. And for those who make the cut? Video interviews via Skype for the final selection process…nerve-wracking! They’ve narrowed it down to 3 girls from South Africa to choose from for the show, and I’m one of them. See my modelling portfolio here. So after just getting off Skype with them, I found some tips for calming nerves from this awesome website:

1:  Melt the frown. Smile and release the worry.  It takes lots and lots of energy to hold a tense, tight frown on your forehead.  Check in with your forehead now – lose the frown then relax the skin across your forehead.  Notice how you release the pressure in your temples as well when you melt the frown.  While you are at it, pay close attention to your teeth and jaw.  Un-clench your jaw, relax your tongue (very important) and part your teeth slightly.  This will help enormously release facial and neck tension.  You might even notice your shoulders relaxing and dropping at the same time. Melt the frown, un-clench your jaw and drop your shoulders.

2: Take a chill pill.  Close your eyes, cup the palms of your hands over your ears, now listen to the sounds of the ocean playing inside your head.  Continue until you feel your nerves a little less frazzled, your thoughts a little calmer and your breathing more relaxed.

3:  Turn off the noise: Silence nourishes your body, mind and soul.  Silence is very restorative. Toxic urban noise is never ending and can be a constant background stress that you may not be aware of.  Tune into your hearing and notice which sounds irritate you.  Take a five minute “no noise” break.  Alternately turn down or turn off any unnecessary stressful noise.

4: Repeat a calming mantra: Use your thoughts to fuel your body with a constant stream of calming and relaxing thoughts. Mantras work because they take your focus away from the stress and drama (just for a moment) and invite more peace into your life.  Here’s a few of my favorites that you might like use.

I remember to breathe and relax moment by moment”

“Every cell in my body is loved and healthy”.

Breath in “I am calm” breathe out “I smile”

5:  Take a mental health break: A less crowded mind means your nervous system is calmer.  Take regular breaks from too much thinking and bring your awareness back into your body. Do your best to have an enjoyable morning and afternoon tea away from your desk in a pleasant environment. Listen to the requests of your body, drink when thirsty, stretch and move when you need to and never skip a meal.  An added bonus; A quiet mind has direct access to wisdom and insight.

6: Adjust your breathing: Find some calm: Make your “out” breath twice as long as your “in” breath. This will immediately calm you down. Your breathing directly reflects your stress levels. If you breathing is fast, tight and shallow then I encourage to read my article 12 great reasons to start alternate nostril breathing:

7: Calm your nerves by turning your back to the world: This is in my top 3 all time favorite relaxation postures in the world. It’s such a simple way to calm an overcrowded mind, call back your scattered energies back, calm your breathing and relax. Click here for full details. I promise you’ll love it.

8: Hug well and hug often: Give a hug or receive a hug, either way hug well and hug often. Heh, even give yourself a hug.  Hugging and cuddling is therapeutic, healing and calming.  According to Virginia Satir a family therapist; we need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 hugs a day for maintenance and 12 hugs a day for growth.  Whats your daily hug quota?

9: Rest your eyes: When you relax your eyes you are inviting your mind and body to follow.  Do yourself a favor and grab yourself a yoga eye pillow and enjoy 5 minutes of relaxation.

10: Self massage nourishes your nervous system: I love my early morning “warm” oil massage.  Touch is healing and extremely nourishing to your body.  Self massage releases happy feelings into your body, improves circulation and supports the removal of toxins from your body.  There are simply loads of benefits. Whilst “self massage” might seem like hard work at first, I can guarantee you’ll soon notice a difference.

11: Cancel, clear, delete your energy drains: Notice what zaps your precious energy and reduce your exposure to gossip, shopping centers, busy places, certain friends or family members. Better still cancel, clear and delete their existence in your life.

12: Give yourself a chocolate facial: Warning!  This is very addicted.  Licking is definitely allowed as long as no one is looking.

13: Hum your worries away: Time to Hum. Place your hand on top of your head, smile, now start humming. Feel the healing vibration of the hum reach the top of your head. Your clever hum will brush away the cob webs, soothe your mind, relax your face muscles and nourish your nervous system.

14:  Sip a calming potion: If all else fails then do what I do; grab for my bottle of passion flower.  I know for a fact that the medicinal herb of passion flower calms my energies in an instant. It great for insomnia and nervousness and has a sedative effect on your nervous system. Around one teaspoon sends a warm calming feeling throughout my body.